PICTURES: The heartbreaking plight of a foreign domestic worker

Domestic worker Undiarti made a heartbreaking decision 18 years ago - leave her family in Indonesia to care for another in Singapore, so her son and mother could eat.

Laura McFadzean

05 August, 2020

BY TIA ROSMAN

For almost two decades, foreign domestic worker Undiarti, 50, has served families in Singapore to ensure her family back home in Indonesia can have food on their plates.

Being the sole breadwinner, Undiarti had no choice but to leave her then-five-year-old son, her elderly mother and her home country of Indonesia to work as a domestic worker in Singapore.

“We live in an impoverished town,” Undiarti says.

“I couldn’t bear to see my family eating bread every day.

“I knew I had to make the ultimate sacrifice, even if it meant that I don’t get to see them anymore.”

18 years later, Undiarti is working full-time for the same family and has watched their children grow up, without having the privilege of raising her own son; now a full-grown adult.

Undiarti’s daily work starts as early as 5am and concludes at 10pm.

She spends her morning in the fresh air completing menial tasks, such as drying the rugs and watering the plants. In the afternoon, the children are awake and she is typically swamped with household chores.

Foreign domestic workers like Undiarti are often exploited by employers who make them responsible for many tasks.

Domestic workers are families’ toilet cleaners, baby sitters, chefs, waitresses and laundry women – all at once.

“I do get tired from doing labour-intensive duties at times,” Undiarti says.

“But whenever I’m exhausted from this daily routine, I’ll keep reminding myself that I have mouths to feed back at home and they’re heavily relying on me.”

Despite her exhaustion, Undiarti always prepares the family’s favourite dishes.

Undiarti says she “never got to cook anything” for her son and mother back home in Indonesia, as they could not afford cooking ingredients.

“I’ve always wondered what would they say if they got to taste my cooking now or if they are even eating well with the money I provide them monthly,” she says.

While roars of laughter fill the dining room, Undiarti silently eats in the kitchen by herself with the people in her village on her mind.

Due to the pandemic, many people in her village have lost their jobs and cannot afford to eat.

Undiarti’s son shares a portion of their groceries to aid the villagers daily, leaving only little for himself and the family.

“I feel like I’m sinning because I’m very well-fed here while my family and friends back at home cannot even afford to buy rice,” she says.

“I feel terrible, but I can’t do much except crying and praying to God.”

Many foreign domestic workers quit their jobs after two years of work.

However, Undiarti says she is fortunate to be working for a thoughtful family who treats her as one of their own.

They have previously flown Undiarti’s son to Singapore to live with them temporarily, but the pandemic has restricted their ability to repeat this.

“Despite living here in Singapore for 18 years, there’s never a time where I stopped praying to God for my son and mother’s well-being,” she says.

“I always pray that my son doesn’t hate me for leaving him to fend for himself and that my mother isn’t mad at me for forcing her to care for my son despite her old age.

“I hope they know that I’m doing this because I truly love them.”